What can we can control during COVID?

Week 9 sheltering at home – life as we know it has changed and much is out of our control. School life is different and changes are inevitable. What can we control?

“I haven’t been practicing social distancing “ said one of my 5 year old students this week.

I can’t control what she does at home, or how her parents are dealing with this situation.

How do I respond to this one. I’m her kindergarten teacher, not her parent.

I changed the subject which I have much experience in and the little Zoom type meeting went on as expected. Girls shared their unicorn stuffed animals. Boys showed cars or lego constructions. I encouraged everyone to keep reading on the computer reading program that I can monitor on line.

And that is how work goes these days.

There’s plenty of behind the scenes issues being discussed in on line meetings with colleagues. End of the year procedures including how to send home the children’s belongings has been established this week.

Teachers will go into school, equipped with their own masks and gloves, sort all the belongings, including February art work still hanging on the walls, into individual bags. In a few weeks, parents will drive by at assigned times to collect the bag of supplies and student work. The End

Well, not really.

We teachers still need to clear the rooms to be emptied for floor waxing this summer, pack our personal belongings away, continue to assign on line work and collect and comment on assignments from students, create a report card – a narrative one that highlights efforts made during distance learning and write a welcome letter for next year’s class.

Wouldn’t it be nice to expect all will be back to normal in September? Buy some supplies, some new shoes and an outfit or two and off they go.

I’m starting to wonder.

I see the defiance and urgency for some to get over this already. OK. If a will has a way, maybe that will work.

But personally I keep a listen to multiple news sources and some of them imply that it is quite possible COVID -19 will come back strongly in the fall. And I am also hearing that children are now affected differently, that they are not “immune” to this virus.

So I don’t know. The California University system, with 23 colleges, has already decided the fall semester will be done online. No campus life.

Broadway shows are closed until at least Labor Day weekend.

I wonder what September will be like here? I have heard some suggestions that sound ridiculous. But maybe realistic.

Children will sit one per a seat on school buses. Staggered half day classes or one day on, one day off schedules may aid in social distancing in classrooms and on buses.

Temperatures will be taken daily, masks will be worn and contact tracing will be enforced for people who have symptoms.

If another outbreak begins, schools must be ready to switch back to virtual classrooms immediately.

School lunch will be consumed in classrooms and if playgrounds are even used, must be sterilized frequently.

All I know is that I can’t control what will happen.

I can not let myself worry about that. I learned after Mike died that I can not change the past. And I can not control the future of the coronavirus either.

I’ve always been somewhat of a rule follower so I do not have a problem protecting myself and others by wearing a mask if I can not assure that I can keep 6 feet away from people.  I have also taken to frequent hand washing.  Sure I miss going out to eat and traveling, but on the plus side I am saving money, other than of course almost daily  home deliveries from Amazon.


The one thing I have control over is my perspective. It always helps me be in a better place to be grateful for what I have, right now.We don’t all have the same things in life, but if you are still alive, you can think of something today that you are grateful for. Maybe it is a friend? A family member? The weather? A TV show that made you laugh, or made you think. A clean dish or a new flower bloom? The soft fur on a pet or the comfy bed to lay in at night? The necklace with a memory or the new dish towels that still look fresh.

Given a few minutes to think, there are so many options for gratitudes. Tell me yours today…!” 


Author: runawaywidow

At the age of 51 I unexpectedly became a widow. For the first 6 months after my husband died, I was in shock and numb. I journaled and with the help of friends, family and therapists was able to get back to living my old life, even if it is now very different. Before I was married, I had spent a semester in England and backpacked around Europe. My husband and I moved from New York to California for 8 years and started a family. Travelling took a back seat to raising a family and going to work everyday. Since the loss of my husband I have visited a lot of places with family and friends and took a solo trip to Thailand. I am enjoying sharing my stories and adventures as well as some of my insights to how I am traveling the path of being a widow. I hope to share my stories and adventures as well as some thoughts on being a middle aged widow. While I have some great experiences traveling to Thailand and cruising to Central America, some of my adventures involve a trip to see a Broadway show in nearby Manhattan and a shopping trip at Bed, Bath and Beyond. If I can inspire anyone to go out and continue to live a good life that would be my greatest accomplishment.

3 thoughts on “What can we can control during COVID?”

  1. I wrote gratitudes everyday as part of my journaling. I share one on saturdays. I’m grateful, my life is fine. But I worry about all the other people whose lives aren’t fine. I worry about hypocrisy. I worry about the reasons behind certain decisions. I’m going to switch up my blog next week and post things a bit differently. I think people have chosen a lane and parked there, even if it’s in the middle of a highway. I want to change that a little, and at least get them to look in the mirrors and through the windshield and passenger window. Good post as always

    1. Thanks for reading. Such crazy times we are living in. Your ideas for future blog posts sounds good. I look forward to reading them.

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