
Category: Moving Forward


My New York Beach Wedding
As a 55 year old widow I never thought I was going to have so much fun getting married again. Today I celebrate my ONE YEAR anniversary! It has sure thrown us lots to deal with: retirement for one of us, a global pandemic, a home sale, the death of my mom, a kitchen and bath renovation and both my kids coming home to live with us for a while during it all. Moving forward every day has been my motto.
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What is Working for you at Home during the Pandemic?
I’m up early today feeling quite reflective over this past month and especially over the past few days. I am learning a lot about myself in the this quiet pause and have some fun things to share from this week.
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Boredom or Loneliness?
When it is cloudy and rainy I start to literally feel glum, but the sun is trying to shine today and I am trying to find ways to deal positively with this current situation we are all living.
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Top 11 Memorable Moments of 2019
Always fun to relive the year and think about the highs and the lows. This year I did get my fill of traveling. I started home renovations and it was relatively painless and such an improvement. I went to my youngest child’s college graduation (and celebrated the oldest son’s graduation from law school which occurred the same day).
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Widows can gain confidence with Travel Therapy
After my husband died and the widow fog started to clear I began to feel anxious about doing just about everything. I wanted to get out and travel. I wanted to not be a sad and lonely widow. I just had a difficult time taking that first step.
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Successful Online Dating for Widows
When is it time to try online dating?
That is a personal decision and depends on each individual.
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Can Widows Have a Big Wedding?
Well, basically, she can have any kind of wedding she wants. She has been to hell and back. It was not easy to bury her husband. And after all the support and love waned, the loneliness was bound to seep in. It’s like a slow flood. Being alone and sad and crying sucks. She can really drown in that flood. But somehow she managed to find love again and if marriage is the way to celebrate that love, she can have any type of wedding she wants.
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Loss of a Spouse: After Year 1
Walking through the construction dust and garbage bags filled with clothes, I pause to reflect on my journey after the loss of my husband.
It’s been a little over three years since that life changing event happened to me and my children. The horrific details of that night I have forced myself not to dwell on and trained my brain, for my own sanity, to redirect my thoughts and keep moving forward. I have done that pretty well.
Surprisingly, I still have moments of melancholy and stabs of aching pain in my heart. It just doesn’t happen as often as it used to and I lead a pretty normal and good life most of the time.
Year 1 was really a blur. I lived through it. I cried. I dealt with paperwork. I walked around in a FOG. I clung to family and friends and familiar situations. I tried to escape. I dealt with more paperwork. I started a lawsuit for a wrongful death.

Building a Life After Loss with Travel Adventures
Travel, travel and more travel. That is how I have been moving forward.
I start each new year with a reflection on the past year and maybe some goals and challenges for the upcoming 12 months, should I be blessed enough to enjoy them.
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